Tired of Playing a Role? Show Up As Your Whole Self.
The Check-In
Can I be real with you?
Some days I’m calm and reflective. Other days? I’m not.
And I used to think I had to always be soft-spoken, always “professional,” always buttoned-up to be taken seriously. But lately, I’ve realized…
That sh*t is exhausting.
The version of me that plays the role—code switches, shrinks herself, says yes when I mean hell no?
She’s tired.
She’s tired of smiling through frustration, tired of making others comfortable at the expense of her truth, tired of being the “safe” version of herself.
The Bloom
I started The Bloom and Thrive Space because I needed a room where I could drop the act.
Where I could cuss a little, cry a little, pray a little, and still be seen as worthy and whole.
This space?
It’s for all the Black women and femmes who are also tired of keeping it “cute and quiet” to fit in. It’s for the ones who feel like they can’t bring their full selves into every room—but desperately want to.
Because when you dim yourself down, the world misses out.
They miss out on your magic, your voice, your power.
And more importantly—you miss out on you.
The Shift
Here’s the shift:
You don’t owe anybody a watered-down version of yourself.
You don’t need permission to be real.
You don’t need to keep explaining why you’re not okay.
You don’t have to perform to be respected.
Let people adjust. Or let them go.
But you? You show up.
Your Turn to Grow
Where in your life are you still code-switching, shape-shifting, or holding back?
Think about one space—work, family, friendships—where you’re still playing a role just to belong.
Now ask yourself: What would it look like to be fully myself here?
Not perfect. Not polished. Just real.
Say the thing. Wear the thing. Ask for what you need.
You deserve to take up space as you are.
The Safe Space
The Bloom and Thrive Space isn’t about perfection.
It’s about presence.
It’s for the women who are shifting, blooming, and doing the work to be more them.
This space is here for the real ones—the loud, soft, sassy, spiritual, sarcastic, brilliant, tired, and rising.
Let’s grow.
Let’s rage and rest and rise and root together.
Tap in with me @thebloomthrivespace or drop a comment if this hit home for you. I’m here—and so is this space. Let’s keep shifting.
Still growing,
